Category Archives: The Conflict Model

The underlying model on how to handle conflict

Elite Schools and Our Broken Societal System

Posted on January 29, 2013 by

/>..I asked a friend of mine, whose daughter is chosing which elite school to go to, a question: ‘We send some of our brightest and best students to apparently some of the best elite schools in the world, and when … Continue reading →

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Arguing to Win Versus Arguing to Learn: Top Ten Conflict Tips

Posted on November 3, 2012 by

I often join in debates in the comment columns of newspapers. In general I do this so that I can learn from people who have different opinions from me. They may not realize it, but the reason I contest what … Continue reading →

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Using Conflict Processes Unilaterally

Posted on July 10, 2012 by

This blog is heavily focused on the idea of using systematic processes to handle conflict. In particular, it suggests a Creative Conflict Model that envisages participants in a conflict, becoming realistic about the conflict, recognizing each others interests, showing creativity … Continue reading →

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Is Empathy Possible in Conflict with Sociopaths aka Assholes?

Posted on June 17, 2012 by

On a previous posting, our correspondent Kyrie Eleison raised the interesting question whether in conflict it was possible to show empathy to the sort of self-seeking, sociopathic folk (aka assholes), who dominate our current politics and many corporations. I thought … Continue reading →

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Mindfulness Bumper Sticker

Posted on June 1, 2012 by

So much of our inability to handle conflict is linked to our inability to be present, to be in the situation and really understand it and really accurately read the other person we are in conflict with. We are also … Continue reading →

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‘A Ritual to Read Each Other’ by William Stafford (1914-1993): Conflict Poem

Posted on May 30, 2012 by

This blog stresses the importance of empathetically but accurately obtaining an accurate ‘theory of mind’ of the other side in any conflict, so I really liked this poem. Thanks to my fellow Jon Haidt admirer John F for this: A … Continue reading →

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Co-creation in Conflict

Posted on May 19, 2012 by

I just discovered the marvelous word co-create, which though developed for marketing and other purposes, I think has huge applications in conflict. In particular, the fourth stage of the Creative Conflict Model behind this blog envisages the two sides in … Continue reading →

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Mapping Your Interests in Conflict, Collaboration or Internal Dilemmas

Posted on May 12, 2012 by

A very good friend of mine, I call The Wave Rider, has just asked me how she might map out her Interests in a complex collaboration/conflict situation at work. I thought this was a really good question, and one we … Continue reading →

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Philip Tetlock’s Top Ten Conflict Tips

Posted on April 25, 2012 by

I thought it would be fun to take Philip Tetlock’s lessons on accurate expert forecasting from his book ‘Expert Political Judgement’ that I have previously posted about and create another one of our Top Ten Conflict Tips, loosely around the … Continue reading →

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50,000 Hits! Thanks to All Our Readers and Inspirers!

Posted on March 14, 2012 by

We just made our 50,000th hit. Thanks to all our readers for this, and keep spreading the message. And my particular thanks for the inspiration (‘think outside the box’) to start something like this blog to my old friend and … Continue reading →

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