Category Archives: Ways to handle conflict

All the different ways conflict has been handled; not always successfully or in a disciplined fashion

Dare to Disagree: Margaret Hefferman TED Talk

Posted on April 19, 2013 by

Great TED talk that captures the essence of this blog: use conflict to achieve better results

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What the Gatekeepers of a Nation Can and Cannot Do: Conflict Movie: ‘The Gatekeepers’

Posted on April 17, 2013 by

Very interesting article in today’s conservative British Daily Telegraph by David Blair, its Chief Foreign Correspondent about a new movie that has just opened of interviews with former heads of the Israeli security service Shit Bet. It suggested that in … Continue reading →

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Empathy: the Mark of a Tough Minded Intelligence

Posted on April 7, 2013 by

Empathy often gets a bad rap in conflict. Especially, I understand from post-colonialists. It sounds like weakness. But having spent my life as a conflict professional, I have found that empathetic understanding of the other side in conflict is essential … Continue reading →

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Conflict Poem:’The Death of the Ball Turret Gunner’ by Randall Jarrell (1914-65)

Posted on April 6, 2013 by

I sometimes think that because we find change hard, rather than use systematic ways to better address our conflicts, we would rather go on killing each other, suing each other, divorcing each other, depressing each other, and generally doing all … Continue reading →

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Climate Change, Fundamentalism and Bayes’ Thereom

Posted on April 6, 2013 by

I loved reading Nate Silver (he of the accurate 2012 election forecasts) new book ‘The Signal and the Noise: Why So Many Predictions Fail but Some Don’t.’ I especially liked his chapter on climate change: A Climate of Healthy Skepticism. … Continue reading →

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Marital Conflict: Relationships are a Journey not a Destination

Posted on April 5, 2013 by

A few weeks ago, I had a really interesting conversation with a security guard at one of my favorite bookstores, Waterstone’s in Gower Street, London (used to be Dillon’s University Bookstore) about conflict in relationships. I thought it might be … Continue reading →

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Negotiating with Difficult People aka Boxing with Assholes

Posted on February 2, 2013 by

My two recent posts on ‘Negotiating with Sociopaths’ and ‘Negotiating with Narcissists’ seem to have been well received., so I post an edited version of the advice I recently gave a friend of mine, who is having to deal with … Continue reading →

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I Blame Post Modernism for George W Bush and Much Else

Posted on January 29, 2013 by

I blame post modernism for opening this particular can of solipsist worms, and then we had a post modernist President in George W Bush, and we really were screwed…him and his ‘Iraq War is just a narrative’ crap…Rumsfeld and his … Continue reading →

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Elite Schools and Our Broken Societal System

Posted on January 29, 2013 by

/>..I asked a friend of mine, whose daughter is chosing which elite school to go to, a question: ‘We send some of our brightest and best students to apparently some of the best elite schools in the world, and when … Continue reading →

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Negotiating with Sociopaths and Corporations Too: Top Ten Conflict Tips

Posted on January 23, 2013 by

Our correspondent @Louploup responding to our piece yesterday ‘Negotiating with Narcissists’, asked for our take on negotiating with sociopaths, some of whom, while clearly not people in other respects, are corporations. So here goes. Anti-social Personality Disorder aka Sociopathy A … Continue reading →

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