Tag Archives: Empathy

Empathy: the Mark of a Tough Minded Intelligence

Posted on April 7, 2013 by

Empathy often gets a bad rap in conflict. Especially, I understand from post-colonialists. It sounds like weakness. But having spent my life as a conflict professional, I have found that empathetic understanding of the other side in conflict is essential … Continue reading →

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Projection versus Empathy in Conflict

Posted on December 13, 2012 by

I have often found that in conflict, as in life generally, people so easily project their own shortfalls onto the other side. With this in mind, I took a look at some of the definitions of the term’projection’ in the … Continue reading →

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Empathy versus Sympathy in Conflict by Kyrie Eleison

Posted on June 17, 2012 by

Our correspondent Kyrie Eleison had some interesting things to say about the distinction between empathy and sympathy in the context of conflict that we post in its own right below. Thank you Kyrie: In instances like this, it is always … Continue reading →

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Is Empathy Possible in Conflict with Sociopaths aka Assholes?

Posted on June 17, 2012 by

On a previous posting, our correspondent Kyrie Eleison raised the interesting question whether in conflict it was possible to show empathy to the sort of self-seeking, sociopathic folk (aka assholes), who dominate our current politics and many corporations. I thought … Continue reading →

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‘A Ritual to Read Each Other’ by William Stafford (1914-1993): Conflict Poem

Posted on May 30, 2012 by

This blog stresses the importance of empathetically but accurately obtaining an accurate ‘theory of mind’ of the other side in any conflict, so I really liked this poem. Thanks to my fellow Jon Haidt admirer John F for this: A … Continue reading →

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Conflict and the Lost Art of Listening

Posted on February 20, 2012 by

If I learned one thing of real value in all my years handling conflict, it was to listen, usually in silence, often taking notes and then repeating back to the other side in conflict exactly what I thought they were … Continue reading →

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The Contagion of Sadness from Creating Reciprocity Blog

Posted on February 19, 2012 by

There is a great posting today on our fellow bloggers site Creating Reciprocity at:  http://creatingreciprocity.wordpress.com/2012/02/19/the-contagion-of-sadness/ I strongly recommend you read it. I particularly liked these quotes from Karen Armstrong (whom I have previously posted about) in her 12 Steps to … Continue reading →

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Top Ten Recent Books that Throw Light on Conflict

Posted on December 17, 2011 by

Well I guess it is the time of year for book lists, though whether you want these as gifts…These are the books I have read this year that throw most light on conflict and on my particular focus these days: … Continue reading →

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Empathy and Sympathy: Dictionary Definitions

Posted on December 10, 2011 by

People seem to get very confused about the difference between empathy and sympathy in conflict. Indeed in one notable conflict on this blog last year, my correspondents seemed utterly unable to distinguish between my having a theory of mind of … Continue reading →

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