Gender Conflict: A Slice of Wedding Cake: Robert Graves

This blog has far too few postings on one of the most fundamental conflicts: between male and female, and females are under-represented in its postings. I am working on that issue. In the interim, I love this Robert Graves poem which I am afraid captures a little of my personal bias:

A Slice of Wedding Cake  


Why have such scores of lovely, gifted girls
Married impossible men?
Simple self-sacrifice may be ruled out,
And missionary endeavour, nine times out of ten.

Repeat ‘impossible men’: not merely rustic,
Foul-tempered or depraved
(Dramatic foils chosen to show the world
How well women behave, and always have behaved).

Impossible men: idle, illiterate,
Self-pitying, dirty, sly,
For whose appearance even in City parks
Excuses must be made to casual passers-by.

Has God’s supply of tolerable husbands
Fallen, in fact, so low?
Or do I always over-value woman
At the expense of man?
Do I?
It might be so.


About creativeconflictwisdom

I spent 32 years in a Fortune Five company working on conflict: organizational, labor relations and senior management. I have consulted in a dozen different business sectors and the US Military. I work with a local environmental non profit. I have written a book on the neuroscience of conflict, and its implications for conflict handling called Creative Conflict Wisdom (forthcoming).
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1 Response to Gender Conflict: A Slice of Wedding Cake: Robert Graves

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