Rumi’s (1207-1273): Top Ten Conflict/Life Tips جلال‌الدین محمد بلخى‎

Inspired by my friend The Wave Rider, I am taking the wisdom of the Iranian Sufi Poet Rumi جلال‌الدین محمد بلخى‎ ,  and creating what might seem a bit counter-intuitive: Rumi’s Top Ten Conflict Tips. It’s not so counter intuitive, if like me you see conflict as central to our lives in many ways and Rumi’s insights into life are correspondingly profound and throw light, albeit oblique light on conflict. And I take this opportunity to hope for peace between Rumi’s country and Iran and mine the USA.


  1. Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing 
    and rightdoing there is a field.
    I’ll meet you there.

    When the soul lies down in that grass
    the world is too full to talk about.” 

  2. The wound is the place where the Light enters you.
  3. Dance, when you’re broken open. Dance, if you’ve torn the bandage off. Dance in the middle of the fighting. Dance in your blood. Dance when you’re perfectly free
  4. Don’t grieve. Anything you lose comes round in another form.
  5. Forget safety, Live where you fear to live, Destroy your reputation, Be notorious.
  6. Do not be satisfied with the stories that come before you. Unfold your own myth
  7. Silence is the language of god, 
    all else is poor translation.
  8. Sell your cleverness and buy bewilderment.
  9. And you? When will you begin that long journey into yourself?
  10. Take someone who doesn’t keep score,
    who’s not looking to be richer, or afraid of losing,
    who has not the slightest interest even
    in his own personality: he’s free.
Sufi Dancing: 

About creativeconflictwisdom

I spent 32 years in a Fortune Five company working on conflict: organizational, labor relations and senior management. I have consulted in a dozen different business sectors and the US Military. I work with a local environmental non profit. I have written a book on the neuroscience of conflict, and its implications for conflict handling called Creative Conflict Wisdom (forthcoming).
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