Ways to Argue: Rubbish!

I suppose I grew up in a very argumentative culture: the South Wales valleys where everyone loved arguing for the sheer joy of it. And also to get a better take on reality and politics and all. To learn via dialogue. My Dad used to start any rebuttal with the cry “Rubbish!” which loosely meant he thought you worthy of an argument…. 

Now I seem to live in a culture in the US, the UK and other countries, globally; where no one seems capable of point-counter-point argument any more. They just assert things and when you counter their assertion with contrary evidence or contest their argument, they either become personally abusive or fall sulky silent. Or utter non sequiturs or ad hominems. “You only say X cos you are a Y.”

This is just as rampant to the left of me, as to the right of me. No wonder we are in a mess, if we can’t even argue things out? Can’t even retain three points made in working memory long enough to answer with three counter points, eh?

(Note three paragraphs to counter for instance: Rubbish! 1) South Wales was never like that 2) Everyone in the world can argue really well 3) The left is especially very good at point counter point arguing.   )

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I spent 32 years in a Fortune Five company working on conflict: organizational, labor relations and senior management. I have consulted in a dozen different business sectors and the US Military. I work with a local environmental non profit. I have written a book on the neuroscience of conflict, and its implications for conflict handling called Creative Conflict Wisdom (forthcoming).
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