Category Archives: The Conflict Model

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Truth, Dare, Fundamentalism and Uncertainty in the Crises of Friendship

I have been reflecting on the circumstances in which we break up a friendship over political differences. As this has happened to me several times recently in our fraught political climate. Logically the following may be going on and may … Continue reading

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Modest Realism in Conflict: Top Ten Conflict Tips

Modern political discourse in the US seems to have become detached from reality in so many ways in the current 2016 Presidential Election campaign and before. So I thought it a good time to post one of our Top Ten … Continue reading

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Curious: Ian Leslie

I am enjoying Ian Leslie’s fine book “Curious: The Desire to Know and Why Your Future Depends on it”. And it got me thinking that actually being curious is profoundly important to any conflict handling: our curiosity about the conflicts … Continue reading

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A New Moral Combo Sandwich of Stanovich, Kahneman, Haidt and Greene

Three thinkers have especially influenced my conflict thinking in recent years: Keith Stanovich for his work on the impact of our conscious and unconscious thinking processes. The latter he sees are often largely installed by genetic drives and the mental … Continue reading

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Why Other People Hurt Us so Damn Much and What to Do About It

I am often asked to provide counsel on the conflicts within families, between friends, and other situations, which are up close and personal, often in the case of families with deep roots in family history. Some seem almost impossible to … Continue reading

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Family Demons and Career Choice

This post is dedicated to my dear friend Evelyn, who suggested I blog on this topic after we discussed it. I grew up in a very conflict averse family. There was an immense amount of subterranean conflict going on between my … Continue reading

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Beyond Selfish or Selfless

I mentor a lot of young women, who are trying to find their independent identity. In doing so, I find that many of them have to go somewhat inwards, and find out what really matters to them. This tends to … Continue reading

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